30 september 2017

Kunnen vaders ook 'stay-at-home-dads' zijn als mama buitenshuis werkt?

Niet zo lang geleden werd ik gewezen op een prachtig stuk van Nancy Campbell van Above Rubies. Het gaat over de vraag of de man ook een 'thuisblijfvader' zou kunnen zijn als de moeder buitenshuis werkt.

In response to my post below, BE PROUD OF YOUR CALLING, a mother asks: “And what about the dads? Aren't they able to be a 'stay-at-home-dad' while 'mommy' works?”

This is becoming more accepted in our humanistic society. However, it is the opposite to God’s plan for men and women. God created the woman to be the nurturer, nourisher, and nestbuilder of the home. He created the man to be the provider, protector, and priest of the home.
When a mother, to whom God has graciously and miraculously given children, leaves her children in a daycare, or even with their father, to pursue a fulltime career out of the home, she denies who God created her to be. When a father refrains from taking up his responsibility to provide for the home, he denies who he is as a man!
The only way you can accept this state of affairs is if you have a humanistic and progressive mindset. You cannot accept it if you have a biblical worldview.
God gives a warning to men in 1 timothy 5:8: “If any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” Take notice that these words were spoken to men, not to women.
Two verses onwards, God speaks about the woman and gives a description of the lifestyle He has planned for her: “Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children (FIRST ON GOD’S LIST), if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed very good work” (1 Timothy 5:10). It is a picture of a mother ministering to her children first and then opening her doors in hospitality and reaching out to the needy around her. Her ministry is in her home.
The picture God gives of the wife in Psalm 128 is of her in the heart of her home with her children all around her table (Psalm 128:3). The picture God gives of the wife in the New Testament is of her being a keeper at home, ministering to the needs of her children and managing her home (1 Timothy 2:15).
To accept the reversal of roles, we must be brainwashed in some way. Why? Because it is opposite to nature. God has not invested in men the same maternal anointing He put in women. Yes, fathers love their children, but they do it in a different way to mothers. They have a strong instinct to protect their children. They want to provide for their children, but they cannot “mother” their children, especially babies and little ones. They are anointed to “father’ their children. And children need both mothering and fathering.
Babies and toddlers need the comfort of their mother’s breasts. Breastfeeding is tied up with motherhood. Scientific studies reveal that the more frequently a mother breastfeeds her baby the more motherly and nurturing she becomes. The hormones release the mothering hormones. A man does not have the same hormones God gives to mothers.
God has also put within women a love for home, unless of course it is brainwashed out of her by our education system, the media, and the deception of our progressive society. A man is not cut out for the finer touches of the home and to making a home feel like a home. He was created to go out and to provide. To work hard for his family.
And what about the following generations? The greatest teaching we give our children is our example. They watch what we do. They observe our roles. When we reverse the roles, they grow up confused. What happens to society? As more men stay home and more women enter the work force, there will be less and less children born. A career woman who is fulltime providing for the family does not have time to have children. Already we are being overtaken by the Islamic population who surpass us. Our average is only 1.8 children per family. Their average is 6.8 per family.
And God’s very first commandment carries with it a mandate for dominion (Genesis 1:28). Those who are fruitful and multiply will be those who take dominion. We see this already happening in Europe.
Let’s stop this ridiculous deception now--for the sake of our families now and for the sake of future generations.
Be blessed, Nancy Campbell

Persoonlijk vind ik het zo'n zegen wanneer vaders met hun zonen en dochters optrekken, hen onderwijzen uit Gods Woord en typische vader-zoon of juist vader-dochter dingen ondernemen. Toch denk ik dat de manier waarop vaders met hun kinderen omgaan anders is dan de manier waarop moeders dat doen. Niet meer of minder maar ánders. God heeft de vrouw geschapen om de verzorger en 'homemaker' van het huis te zijn. Hij creëerde de man om de kostwinner, beschermer en priester van het huis te zijn. Dit wordt in bovenstaand stukje ook uitgelegd. 

(Dit stuk is hier terug te lezen op Facebook inclusief diverse reacties)

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